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Plan a Guilt Free Mother’s Day

Guilt-Free Mother’s Day | Mother’s Day Plans | Plan Your Own Mother’s Day | Mother's Day Ideas

Do you ever feel guilty about taking “me time”?

As busy moms, our lives are filled with pressures and lists of things we need to do, but it always seems like we never quite have enough time to take care of everything. Then, when we (finally) take a break and browse social media, it looks like everyone else is hand-decorating birthday cakes, growing prolific vegetable gardens, going out to glamorous parties, or having fun with friends.

It can be hard to keep up…and can even lead us to feeling guilty. Like, we feel guilty if we spend me time, yet somehow we also feel guilty if we don’t!

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And ugh–Mom Guilt. Isn’t it the worst?! It weighs us down, nags us from the back of our minds, and takes away our ability to just enjoy the moment. Instead of taking care of our ourselves and thinking  “this is just what I needed,” we’re distracted by the thought of, “I should be doing X.”

So this year, for Mother’s Day (or your birthday, or ANY day YOU just want to be absolved of guilt and enjoy yourself), let’s resolve to celebrate, guilt-free!

The Benefits of Enjoying Yourself

There are so many benefits to enjoying yourself. Obviously there’s the immediate benefit: you have fun and you get what you want in the moment. You feel happy. You relax and smile.

Longer term, constant stress has really negative effects on our body, mind and soul. When we feel stretched too thin (maybe we find ourselves getting emotional and crying over commercials, for example), it might be time to take a reset and practice a little self-care. When stress takes over, we aren’t operating at 100%. Our sleep, diet and concentration are affected and we aren’t doing our best.

If you think it might be time to take a break and enjoy yourself, but you aren’t sure you can “afford” to make it a priority, consider all the benefits of enjoying yourself…

1. You’ll feel less stressed

By taking a break and allowing yourself a real Mother’s Day, you’ll feel less physically stressed. You’ll notice you have more energy and less exhaustion, plus, you might even boost your immune system, feel greater resolve, and experience better health in the long run.

2. You’ll be calmer and kinder

We’ve all heard the “kick the dog” story. (A man comes home after a terrible day at work, yells at his son, who pushes his sister, who ends up kicking the poor dog…who didn’t do anything!) It’s a terrible story (poor puppy!) but the point is, when we’re running on a short fuse, we end up taking it out on those we interact with. Maybe it’s the cashier at the grocery store who we snap at or our spouse who ends up being our emotional punching bag. Taking time to refresh and practice self-care will result in a kinder, calmer you.

3. You’ll be a better friend

Stressed out people aren’t always great friends. Now, most of us are lucky enough to have some friends who love us even when we’re not at our greatest. We’ve all got that girl we call when things are going awry and we’re ready to scream, but sometimes we have to turn the tables. If you find you’re isolating your pals because you never have time for them or when you do talk to them, it’s always a huge “venting session,” resetting will help you be a better friend.

4. You’ll be a better wife

Our partners often get us at our best and at our worst. When I’m stressed, I know my husband picks up the slack (and he’s already vying for Dad of the Year) and helps out tons. We’ve all experienced the pain of a spouse who’s unhappy or who’s going through a rough time, and of course, when that happens all we want is to help. When we’re stressed out, we’re distant and less affectionate. We’re irritable and tired. Your husband wants you to take care of yourself.

5. You’ll be a better mom and more fun!

Just like your husband might feel the brunt of your stress, your kids definitely get it too. If you’ve been in “mean mom” mode (and we’ve all been there), it’s time to take a step back and reset. It’s not that you should feel guilty about being overwhelmed, but look at it as getting back to the enjoyment of life. What do you like to do with your kids? When Mom’s happy, everyone’s happy!

6. You might even look younger

When we’re hunched over computers, running around frazzled and squinting and furrowing our brows over our smartphone, it’s not helping us look any younger. (I’m just being honest!) Stress takes its toll on our appearance: from dark under-eye circles, to extra weight to yes, wrinkles. Plus, taking time out for ourselves gives us a chance to really look and feel our best, not for others, but for US. When we feel good about our looks, we have more confidence and better posture, and we even might knock a few years off our looks!

7. You’ll have fewer physical issues

If you’ve experienced GI issues, headaches, back or neck pain, those can all be symptoms of stress. Taking a day or two off to recoup and take care of yourself can help alleviate all those symptoms and just generally leave you feeling healthier and more energetic. In the longer term, you might even see effects like lower blood pressure, less weight gain, and other tale-tell signs of stress.

8. No regrets!

YOLO, right? You only live once, and no one ever looks back on their life and says, “I wish I’d worked more days, cleaned more toilets, or scrubbed floors more often.” Taking a day to really do what you want and enjoy yourself will build memories and help you feel more alive, alert and lighter.

What Do YOU Want?

So, if you’re convinced to make this Mother’s Day ALL about you, you might be wondering, “What now?” Sometimes we get so bogged down and used to being in a state of stress that we aren’t quite sure what to do with ourselves when we finally get to take a break.

Of course, life still has to happen. Even if you throw caution to the wind and spend a whole day doing nothing but what YOU want, there might still be something that comes up…but rather than stress about it, roll with it. Put off laundry and housekeeping. Have someone else warm up dinner or eat sandwiches on paper plates (if cooking and doing dishes stresses you out). Resolve to spend a day doing what you really love.

Still having a hard time deciding? Well, here are a few questions to ask yourself:

1. What do you really enjoy?

Do you like painting? Do you enjoy long walks? Do you love getting your hair or nails done, going out with your friends or sipping tea and reading a book by yourself?

When you think about what you really enjoy, don’t worry about what you might be good at, what others like, or what’s productive. You might have two left feet, but if you love to dance, turn up the music and go for it! Your family might hate doing puzzles, but if you love them, then let them know they’ll need to entertain themselves for a while because you’re opening a puzzle.

2. What can you afford (in money, calories)?

If you have wanderlust and you’re dying to travel somewhere, but you know weekend tickets to a destination, a babysitter, plus a hotel would break the bank, figure out an alternative.

Can you go to a little town nearby and enjoy a daytrip with your spouse while grandma sits or a neighbor trades you a day of babysitting? It might not be Bermuda, but would a day at the pool, a visit to a botanical garden, or a trip to the art museum scratch your itch to explore and take in beauty?

If you’re dieting and don’t want a day of binging to derail your progress, consider enjoying one decadent meal or dessert and making the absolute most of it. Take photos, savor it slowly, and make it an indulgence to really remember. Don’t feel guilty—just love it!

3. How can you find the time?

If you can’t take off an entire day (maybe you’re a mom with an infant or a demanding work schedule), consider blocking out an evening or two or a few hour-long chunks of time to really do what you want.

We often think we just don’t have the time to spend on ourselves, but if a friend were in need, our child was sick, or our spouse had something important going on, we would squeeze it in. We have to make the same time commitments for ourselves as well. Block it out on your schedule and tell your family so you’ll stay committed to it. Make it a priority.

4. What should you avoid?

Now, being that it’s YOUR time to do what YOU want, the only things you should really avoid are things that make you feel bad about yourself, stress you out, or feel like obligations. For some of us, that might mean turning off our phones, avoiding social media, or not tuning into the news.

Avoid the things that don’t feel special, relaxing or rejuvenating. If your family loves going to ballgames, but you aren’t so into it, take a raincheck and go out with a friend instead. If you have familial obligations on Mother’s Day specifically, schedule your OWN Mother’s Day for a time when you can really indulge and enjoy the day just for you.

Throw Caution to the Wind with a Few Ideas

There are a so many great things you could do on your special day (and we each have our own hobbies and things we enjoy). If you’re struggling to come up with some ideas to inspire, here are a few:

  • Have a Spa day
  • Host your own Read-a-thon
  • Plan a staycation
  • Find adventure
  • Go outdoors
  • Create!
  • Connect!
  • Love!
  • Visit a museum
  • Go to a concert
  • See a play
  • Go to the park and swing
  • Enjoy a yoga class
  • Play games
  • Go for a long drive (optional: turn the radio up and SING)
  • Check out a new restaurant or try a new food
  • Plant flowers
  • Visit water: a lake, river, ocean, pond or pool
  • Play a musical instrument
  • Take your pup to a dog park or brush a kitty

Whatever really makes you feel happy and refreshed and gives you a zest for life, take time this Mother’s Day to make it all about YOU. Do something new you really want to try, enlist a friend, or go it alone.

Make this a Mother’s Day to remember, guilt free! You deserve it!!

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Guilt-Free Mother’s Day | Mother’s Day Plans | Plan Your Own Mother’s Day | Mother's Day Ideas

11 Comments

  1. April 17 at 10:36AM

    Ruth, thank-you for this reminder that as moms we need to take care of ourselves and the ideas on how to do it. It is so easy in the busyness of life to forget that or not prioritize self care.

    One of the things that reminds me of the importance of self care is my infusion pitcher. It reminds me that when I am infused with healthy thoughts and a peaceful mind that is what I share with friends and family. When I am stressed an overwhelmed that is what I share with those I love. It helps me remember I deserve better, but so do they.

    • Ruth Soukup
      April 18 at 06:50AM

      What a great visual Tamara! I love that. Hope you have an amazing Mother’s Day!

    • Jill
      April 22 at 04:48PM

      Thank you for that visual, Tamara! That would be a pretty watercolor print!

  2. April 17 at 01:13PM

    Ruth, you’ve provided awesome ideas for me time. I was always a person who felt guilty for doing things for myself. It felt like I was taking away from my children. After the birth of my fourth child, I realized I had to take “me time” for my sanity. 🙂 I hope other moms out there realize they’re important and need time to themselves.

    • Ruth Soukup
      April 18 at 06:48AM

      yes, I’m praying this post helps moms appreciate some guilt free “me” time. It really does make us better parents, wives and friends. 🙂

  3. April 17 at 03:32PM

    One thing to consider whenever you feel guilty about taking a little “me time” is that you can’t take care of anyone if you don’t take care of yourself first. When you are really tired or stressed, you’re more prone to getting sick. In every emergency situation, you are instructed to help yourself before you help others. Apply the same concept to your everyday life, no matter how hard it is because in the end, everyone will be better off.

    • Ruth Soukup
      April 18 at 06:46AM

      This is so true Maria. Thanks for the important reminder! 🙂

  4. April 17 at 09:14PM

    One of the hardest things for me was telling my kids and husband how I wanted to spend Mother’s Day. I used to let them plan the day, but what they saw as pampering me, really just caused me stress. I don’t enjoy restaurants on busy holidays…and I especially didn’t when my children were really young. I didn’t want a huge breakfast…or a huge lunch…or a huge dinner! I finally told them that I really just enjoy a simple day of all of us being together.

    • Ruth Soukup
      April 18 at 06:42AM

      Isn’t it odd that we find it hard to share with our families what would make us happy. Glad you finally shared your thoughts with them. Here’s to a relaxing Mother’s Day!

  5. April 23 at 08:35PM

    I’ve never done much on mothers day, but this has got me thinking. I love your reminders that when we make time for ourselves it can do so much for ourselves and those around us. Maybe I’ll go much bigger than just asking for chocolates this year. ☺

  6. April 27 at 03:46PM

    Thank you so much for this. We often forget to take care of ourselves, and this was an amazing and helpful reminder. Love the idea!

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