Less Anxiety {Day 7}


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This is Day 7 of our 31 Days of Less & More challenge.  To read all the posts in order, start with Day 1, then visit the Overview Page to see the entire series.  

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Our anxiety does not empty tomorrow of its sorrows, but only empties today of its strengths. —Charles H. Spurgeon

It’s an all-too familiar feeling.  That churning lead knot in your stomach, feeling like you can’t catch your breath, a heart beating too fast.  Your head starts to pound and you wonder how on earth you will possibly meet that deadline, make that mortgage payment, or face that problem.  You toss and turn at night, unable to sleep, consumed by the worry and stress.  You feel like the weight of the world is on your shoulders.

While anxiety affects some of us more than others, it is almost universally self-defeating.  The more anxious we become, the less we are able to deal with our problems in a constructive way.  Succumbing to anxiety takes away all our power in a given situation.

Years ago, in the midst of my deep depression, I also suffered from debilitating anxiety and insomnia.  I was often paralyzed by panic attacks and weakened by a lack of sleep, all of which only made my depression worse.  In fact, it wasn’t until I began to adopt some concrete coping methods that I was able to finally become healthy again.  In fact, I still use these same strategies to overcome those occasional moments of anxiety:

  • Deep breathing.  Anxiety and stress often causes shallow breathing, which in turn compounds our stress because our body is not getting enough oxygen.  I’ve found that taking a few moments to focus on my breathing, drawing in deep breaths through my nose, then letting it out through my mouth can help calm my nerves, slow my heart rate, and help me relax.
  • Positive self-talk.  Sometimes I just need to just tell myself that everything is going to be okay.  Sometimes it is hard to see the forest through the trees, and occasionally I need to remind myself that whatever I am worried about will blow over eventually, and that in the grand scheme of things it is not the end of the world.  Other times I need to talk myself into acceptance of a situation that can simply not be changed.
  • Writing lists.  Often my stress comes from having too many things on my plate and worrying that I might forget something important.  I’ve found that writing things down (or making a note on my phone) as soon as I think of something helps keep anxiety at bay.
  • No backlight before bedtime.  I try to make a point to stop looking at any backlit screens, such as my phone or computer, just before bed.  Instead I usually try to read for about 20 minutes, which helps me relax so I can sleep well.

Although it probably won’t happen all at once, refusing to give in to anxiety will ultimately make a dramatic difference in your overall wellbeing.  Even better, it will give you the strength to overcome your difficulties instead of just worrying about them.

Be sure to read Edie’s corresponding post, More Rest.


Take some time today to do something kind for yourself that you don’t normally make time for.  Read a book, take a bath, bake cookies, get a pedicure, take a walk, sit and watch the sunset over a glass of wine, do some yoga…..give yourself at least 60 minutes today to rest and recharge.    Share what you did or what you are planning to do today in the comments below or on Facebook.


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Do you ever struggle with anxiety?  How will you relax & recharge today?


  1. October 7 at 09:12AM

    Tomorrow I will be having minor surgery so of course today is filled with anxiety. Making time today to just close my eyes and relax, getting myself into a calmer state for tomorrow. I worked all the minor things out (kids, buses, ect) and I will just let God help with it all. Have a blessed day! 🙂

    • Ruth Soukup
      October 7 at 02:38PM

      Sending prayers and good thoughts your way today Debra!

    • Nancy D
      October 8 at 12:22PM

      Don’t worry, hmm to yourself, sing a little song to yourself. Get out of your head and u will be ok!

  2. Holly
    October 7 at 09:49AM

    Loving today’s challenge! I think today I will treat myself to a nice hot bubble bath.

    • Ruth Soukup
      October 7 at 02:34PM

      That sounds like a great idea Holly! I might have to follow suit! 🙂

  3. October 7 at 10:41AM

    Great tips! I just want to add a note for those who are struggling with clinical anxiety or depression. While these coping mechanisms are fantastic ways to manage stress, do not feel like you are broken if they don’t “cure”/work for you. Just like physical illness often requires medical treatment, so does mental illness. Under the direction of a doctor, taking medication and/or participating in therapy is something you can do for your own well-being and for the benefit of those you love.

    • Ruth Soukup
      October 7 at 03:40PM

      Good point Clair–these tips are definitely not meant to be a “quick fix” for what is often an ongoing, long-term issue. These are simply a few technique that have really helped me! 🙂

  4. Anonymous
    October 7 at 01:25PM

    Anxiety has always been a struggle for me. I don’t know why but it makes me feel better to know you struggle with it sometimes too.

  5. Bee
    October 7 at 07:14PM

    Anxiety has been part of life all my adult life. I’ve had to go through some serious medical problems & still going through them. Medication had pulled me through to alleviate the pain. I had to teach myself to meditate, practice breathing & learn my triggers. It has helped me immensely to surround myself with positive people & I’ve learned to remove myself from situations that are toxic. Thanks!

  6. October 7 at 09:13PM

    I’m a worrier by nature so anxiety tends to come with that. My husband is not a worrier and always tells me I have to accept there are some things I can’t control. Whenever I’m feeling anxious about something I think about that and it really does help! I’m also very big on walking, there’s nothing like fresh air and a little exercise to make you feel better:)

  7. Stephanie E.
    October 8 at 08:51PM

    Thank you so much for the post! I know the feeling of anxiety all too well. Sometimes you gotta remember that your not alone in this world and to surround yourself with loved ones when times gets tough. This helps me be less anxious too when I can talk about it with someone. Thanks again!

  8. June 7 at 11:51PM

    I’m trying to train my brain to think scripture when I’m troubled in my mind. Not sure if it’s ok to link to a blog post I wrote, but the title is “What To Do When You Find Yourself Fretting”. This does seem to be a common issue!

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