Less Judgment {Day 8}


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This is Day 8 of our 31 Days of Less & More challenge.  To read all the posts in order, start with Day 1, then visit the Overview Page to see the entire series.  

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Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle. —Plato

Have you ever been around a person who never seems to have a kind word for anyone?  No matter the situation, they will be critical.  No matter the person, they will find fault.  Criticism and judgment seems to come as naturally to them as breathing.

Perhaps that person has even been you.

I know it’s been me.  The reality is that it is often hard to go very long without making an assumption about someone.

  • That guy who just cut you off on the freeway?  Jerk.
  • That pretty wife of an older husband?  Gold digger.
  • That homeless man with the cardboard sign on the corner?  Druggie.
  • That church member you don’t get along with?  Hypocrite.
  • That teacher who just gave your child a D?  Mean.
  • That friend who just blew you off?  Self-absorbed.

We often unthinkingly assume the worst of the people we come across, whether they be complete strangers or those closest to us.  How easily we can condemn for even the smallest of offenses.  We see the world through judgment-colored lenses.

But if we really stop to think about it,  we realize that our tendency to criticize everything and everyone is little more than a defense mechanism, a simple way to avoid having to actually connect with the people around us.  Giving people the benefit of the doubt means we might actually have to become just a little bit vulnerable.

And being vulnerable is awfully scary sometimes.

Do it anyway.  Vow to trade your critical eye for one of kindness and compassion and instead.  Let go of preconceived judgments, and when you find yourself assuming the worst, make an effort to consider a less condemning alternative.  The truth is that we never really know what is behind the facade, or what battle that person might be fighting behind closed doors.  Step into that other person’s shoes and walk around awhile.  You might just be amazed at how different the world begins to look.

Be sure to read Edie’s corresponding post, More Acceptance.


Think of someone you have perhaps been unfairly critical of or judgmental towards recently.  What assumptions did you make about them and their situation? Now think of a time where someone else has either judged you unfairly or given you the benefit of the doubt.  How did you feel?  What is something you could do today to show compassion to someone in your life?  Share your experiences in the comments below or on Facebook.


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Finally, be sure to check out Crystal’s great insight on Less Anxiety/More Rest from  yesterday’s post.

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Have you ever been unfairly judged?  How did it make you feel?  Do you struggle with being critical or judgmental of others?


  1. Holly
    October 8 at 09:32AM

    I love that quote, it is one of favorites. I can certainly think of a few times recently where I felt like I was judged unfairly. Of course I am also guilty of being overly critical of others. Great food for thought!

    • Ruth Soukup
      October 8 at 03:21PM

      One of my favorites too Holly!

  2. October 8 at 11:20AM

    I’ve seen many times how easy it is to be critical and not caring. Being critical is easy and takes very little thought. But being care takes more work and love. Thanks for sharing this great reminder. A caring word or deed can make a HUGE difference. Hope you have a great day~

    • October 8 at 11:21AM


    • Ruth Soukup
      October 8 at 03:21PM

      So true! I hope you have a great day as well Amber. 🙂

  3. Bee
    October 8 at 11:34AM

    Like my husband says..”it’s not hard to be nice”. I’m going to try it:) Thanks!

    • Ruth Soukup
      October 8 at 03:14PM

      My husband tells me “God gave you 2 ears and 1 mouth. Use them accordingly.” 🙂 I think I like your husband’s saying better! 🙂

  4. Dawn
    October 8 at 02:28PM

    YAWN.. No disrespect, but I was hoping for more exciting stuff from you.. but this has become pretty boring. Miss the way your site used to be a few years back. Think I’ll bow out now and find something more exciting that will actually keep me coming back to read.. Sorry.

    • Ruth Soukup
      October 8 at 03:12PM

      Hey Dawn, please let me know if you find a good one–I’m always looking for great new blogs to read! 🙂 I’m sorry my posts don’t interest you anymore but I do wish you the best on your quest. Things are always evolving around here….maybe someday LWSL will be a good fit for you yet again.

      • Jen
        October 10 at 01:00PM

        You keep it up, sweet friend. We’ve become a quick fix society where everyone just needs great pictures all the time, top tips to read etc etc. There are VERY few blogs that commit to walking us through the hard stuff and doing it well. YOU ARE!! If she’s following along, she’ll realize that you committed to this for a 31 day experiment. One in which we can learn and think about deeper things each day.

        And I finally highly ironic and had to chuckle that this comment came on the day of LESS JUDGEMENT! hahah I am sure you had a good chuckle as well.

  5. October 8 at 09:13PM

    “The truth is that we never really know what is behind the facade, or what battle that person might be fighting behind closed doors”–Love this saying and always remind myself when dealing with a negative situation / person! 🙂

  6. Renata
    October 9 at 12:36AM

    I think it depends of the stage in life I am at right now, but somehow reading your blog makes me think and be aware of TODAY. My needs have been changing every year and for now this is what I need to be better and more conscious about what is around me, and that’s more than enough for now so thank you!

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