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6 Things I Wish I Would Have Known When I Was 22

With my 40th birthday just weeks away, I’ve been doing a lot of thinking lately, and a lot more reflecting than I normally do.  Maybe that’s what happens when you get old.

A few years back, I wrote a post for my nephew who was graduating from high school, sharing those key pieces of advice I wish someone had told me at 18 (had I been willing to listen).

But if I’m being honest, my early twenties were even rougher than my teenage years and fraught with some pretty big ups and downs–depression, divorce, bankruptcy, and too many bad choices to count.  And every once in a while I wish I could just go back and give my 22-year-old self a few pieces of sage advice.

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Mostly, I would tell her life gets easier in many ways and harder in a few. Your life becomes richer and fuller. That motherhood and life experience will change you, and that the heartbreaks and struggles will make you stronger. You’ll be less worried about yourself and more concerned with what’s going on around you. You don’t get as worked up about the little stuff as you get older. You gain a lot of perspective.

Here are a few other things I would say:

1. Embrace Your Independence

Marriage is awesome, and having kids will be the best thing you ever do.

Even so, being single is pretty great too.  It’s the only time in your life where you will be able to paint your living room lime green, just because it’s yours, and the only time in your life will it will only take you 20 minutes to get your apartment spotless.

So be young and enjoy it the lack of responsibilities! Go out with your girlfriends.  Travel the world. Go to the beach every weekend. Spend the whole day reading or watching TV, just because you can.

You see, as you get older and your priorities shift, and you have a lot more people depending on you, you’ll sometimes long for those days of doing whatever you wanted. Of course, commitment and motherhood offer wonderful new challenges and horizons to explore, but don’t forget to enjoy the time to discover and simply “be” yourself.

Someday you may miss it.

Ever wish you could go back in time and give yourself a little advice, based on everything you know now? Me too! Here are the 6 most important things I would tell my 22-year-old self about life, money, and making choices you won't regret later in life. What advice would you add to this list?

2. You Look Awesome.  Really.

Even though you might feel self-conscious and uncomfortable, and never-quite-skinny-enough, you actually look amazing!  No really, you do! This is your prime, so you might as well enjoy it.

Believe me, you won’t always be able to eat Potato Burritos with extra potato burrito sauce from Casa Que Pasa every night and still look the way you do.  And you won’t always be able to wear those low rise jeans.  You’re going to have to work a lot harder at staying in shape.

So instead of beating your body up and critiquing yourself, focus on all the amazing things your body can do—from running a mile to getting super low on the dance floor. Rather than thinking of ways you wish your body was different, focus on what you love about yourself. And work a little harder to stop taking it for granted!

Ever wish you could go back in time and give yourself a little advice, based on everything you know now? Me too! Here are the 6 most important things I would tell my 22-year-old self about life, money, and making choices you won't regret later in life. What advice would you add to this list?

3. Form Healthy Habits Now

I know it probably feels that way, but you are not indestructible!

And while I know you love those Potato Burritos, with your beer and tequila shots on the side, you might not want to get into the habit of having them every single day.

And along those lines, there’s probably a few other habits that would be good to adopt as soon as possible, things like wearing sunscreen and saving money and establishing good morning routines and working out regularly.

Of course, all the practical activities come with time, but it takes a while to get there. Forming new habits requires discipline and dedication. It means repeating tasks over and over until they feel natural. The sooner you start, the easier it is, whether it’s washing the dishes every night or making the bed.

It’s great to go out and have fun–and you should–but spend at least a little bit of time being purposeful about the future.  You’ll certainly appreciate it later!

Ever wish you could go back in time and give yourself a little advice, based on everything you know now? Me too! Here are the 6 most important things I would tell my 22-year-old self about life, money, and making choices you won't regret later in life. What advice would you add to this list?

4. Get a Handle on Your Finances

You’ve never been all that good with money, but part of being an adult is figuring out your finances.  So just say NO to spending beyond your means!  Spending every cent you have is a huge mistake, and going into debt is an even bigger one.

Start saving now!  If you’ve ever seen the calculations, starting to save $100 a week in your twenties you can retire with over a million dollars in your late sixties. Even as little as $10 per week results in huge returns.

Right now you’re not making all that much, and it doesn’t seem like a big deal to spend every cent you have, especially when you are being offered credit left and right. And it’s fun to be able to buy whatever you want.

But there will be long-term consequences to the choices you make now, and you’ll never want to find yourself stuck because of the bad choices you have made.  Digging your way out of a financial hole is certainly possible, but it’s much easier if you never start. So learn to tuck away a little for a rainy day. Refuse to take on debt and live within your means. It’s a recipe for long-term financial success.

Ever wish you could go back in time and give yourself a little advice, based on everything you know now? Me too! Here are the 6 most important things I would tell my 22-year-old self about life, money, and making choices you won't regret later in life. What advice would you add to this list?

5. Dare to Dream BIG

I promise that right now you have absolutely NO IDEA what you are actually capable of, and in your life you will do some pretty cool things that you can’t even begin to imagine are possible.

But it will take you a long time to figure out your place in life, and if you really want to achieve fantastic and fabulous accomplishments, you must start with a BIG dream. RIght now, the world is entirely open to you. You’ve got plenty of time to experiment and figure out what you’d like to do. You’ll have years in the career field to explore your degree (or go a totally different direction).

Think what you would want if the sky was the limit. What would you imagine yourself doing in a perfect world? While many people accomplish greatness later in life, the majority of successful people are well on their path to achievement by the time they hit their mid-to-late thirties. If you start down a strong path in your twenties, you’ll experience so many more opportunities.

Ever wish you could go back in time and give yourself a little advice, based on everything you know now? Me too! Here are the 6 most important things I would tell my 22-year-old self about life, money, and making choices you won't regret later in life. What advice would you add to this list?

6. Listen to Your Heart (& It’s Okay to Make Mistakes)

You are surrounded by people who have an opinion about what you do–friends, co-workers, professors, siblings, and parents too.  And while it’s okay–even wise–to listen to the advice of others and keep it in mind, you shouldn’t be afraid to listen to your heart, even if it sometimes means making a mistake.

You will make mistakes, in life and in love, and that’s okay.

But you will also make some really good choices by following your heart too.

You know yourself better than anyone else. So pay attention and stay in tune to what’s right for you, what speaks to you and what drives you. While it’s important to build connections and relationships with others, it’s also key you focus on trusting yourself. Give your gut some credit.

And if you sometimes get it wrong?  Well, that’s okay too.

Your biggest mistakes will become your biggest lessons.

So even when you lose, you win.

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Now when I think back on my twenty-something self, the biggest thing I see is potential. I might not have had it all figured out (and I may have made quite a few bad choices along the way) but all those experiences shaped the person I would ultimately become.

And that’s pretty cool.

Ever wish you could go back in time and give yourself a little advice, based on everything you know now? Me too! Here are the 6 most important things I would tell my 22-year-old self about life, money, and making choices you won't regret later in life. What advice would you add to this list?

14 Comments

  1. Lowell
    March 16 at 04:29PM

    Take care of your joints and feet so you will be able to move pain free in your 70s and 80s. There will be enough other problems when you get that old.

  2. Lisa
    March 16 at 06:00PM

    Great article!

  3. March 16 at 08:51PM

    Great read! I am 61 years old and always talking to my younger self. Life is good and you can always turn a bad into a good!

    BJ

  4. Anonymous
    March 16 at 11:38PM

    So true!

  5. matilde josela
    March 17 at 01:17AM

    thank you so much for this Ruth ! awesome! will keep this in mind and heart!

  6. March 17 at 08:54AM

    Once again, thank you Ruth. Timely for me to share and encourage my son whose it college and struggling with all the questions in his life. This really breaks it down in a doable plan of action. Blessings to you!

  7. March 17 at 11:32AM

    Remember how at 22 we thought we had it all figured out? Thanks for sharing, Ruth! It’s great to remember how far we’ve come and how much runway we have left to achieve our goals!

  8. March 17 at 05:49PM

    This. All of it! I had my first child when I was 20 so I gave up my independence early. I don’t regret that but totally agree that you should embrace those years. You won’t be able to do the “just because” once you have other people who depend on you.
    I would add to this that I shouldn’t have gotten so worked up about having a lot of friends. True friends can usually be counted on one hand and those are the people who will be there 25 years later. Ahhh..hindsight!

  9. Emily
    March 18 at 05:16AM

    Similar to #6, I would advise myself to be humble enough to take advice and recognize that at 22 I may have be smart and driven but there were lots of people smarter and wiser whom I should have listened to. Or at least humored.
    Additionally, don’t move back in with parents, struggle in a small apartment but don’t move back in!

  10. March 18 at 02:34PM

    This is a beautiful post.

  11. Janet
    March 22 at 08:56AM

    Wow! I can so relate to what you said here! Thanks!

  12. March 24 at 02:34PM

    Thanks for sharing and I love the photos of you. Couldn’t recognize you as a blonde!

  13. April 13 at 09:16AM

    Wish my 20-something self had known all this and then some! If only I had listened to some good advice I received back then. I would have taken the opportunity to live out on my own, understood my own worth and made better relationship choices! Fortunately, as you said, we learn from our mistakes and even the negative experiences help to make us who we are. I like to think that every difficult thing we go through in life is shaping us into who God wants us to be! Thanks for sharing!

  14. August 5 at 06:16PM

    Great article and much the same advice I gave my 2 kids as I didn’t want them to repeat some of my mistakes. They’ve had their own but it is so true that big mistakes can become your best lessons that move you forward.

    Sure your nephew appreciated your advice. 🙂

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