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Raise your hand if you've ever fallen into the Comparison Trap? 🙋‍♀️ But there IS a way to avoid the comparison trap that brings so many people down. Don't miss these three very practical techniques you can try the next time you feel yourself getting lost down that comparison trail! #livingwellspendingless #doitscaredpodcast #doitscared #ruthsoukup #loveyourself

The Do It Scared™ Podcast with Ruth Soukup provides weekly motivation, inspiration, and practical instruction for anyone tired of settling for “good enough.” Each week we tackle topics like goal-setting, overcoming procrastination, finding the time, energy & know-how for accomplishing our dreams, and overcoming the challenges that stand in our way. Don’t miss an episode; subscribe here.

Have you ever felt, after scrolling through Instagram or Facebook and seeing the fabulous lives of our friends, neighbors, and even people we don’t actually know in real life, that your own life just doesn’t quite measure up?

Honestly, I think it happens to all of us.

We start to wonder why we can’t jet off to tropical locations every month, or why our blogs or businesses are just limping along when our friends have found major success. We even start to compare our children to others. Why don’t our lives look as perfect as the ones that are popping up on our feeds?

Let me just tell you, this comparison game is a TRAP!

The thing is, we get so stuck in comparing ourselves and our lives and our progress and our success to other people. And whether you are trying to build a business, trying to manage your home, trying to get promoted at work, or simply trying to create a life you LOVE, comparison is a giant trap that will suck you in and not let go.

Luckily, in Episode 23 of the Do It Scared™ Podcast, I share some simple techniques that you can use to stay out of the muck of comparison.

You see, comparison breeds discontentment, and ultimately there is no way to win that game. Even so, there IS a way to avoid the comparison trap that brings so many people down.

So let’s talk about three very practical techniques you can try the next time you feel yourself slipping into that comparison trap.

The road to success looks different for every person.

KNOW WHAT SUCCESS LOOKS LIKE TO YOU

The first essential step is to get completely clear about what you want most of all, as well as getting clear about your priorities, and about the path you will need to take.

I think the biggest reason that comparison is so sinister is that it doesn’t happen on an equal playing field.  What you want, and what you view as success, is a destination that is unique to you. That means that often the people we are comparing ourselves to are on a completely different journey—one with different rules and different objectives.

Your journey is your journey, and ultimately creating a life you love means recognizing exactly what is most important and most meaningful to you.  But it also means understanding that what is important and meaningful to you will not be the same as what is important and meaningful for other people, and vice versa. And that’s okay.

PUT YOUR BLINDERS ON

Once you’ve defined what success looks like to you, and created an action plan on how to get there, then the easy part is done! The reality is, dealing with distractions, putting your head down, keeping your blinders on, trusting the plan, and actually doing the work—that’s the hard part!

Action is the antidote to fear.  And the secret to success that so many people never realize is that as long as you keep those small steps in one direction, you will get there eventually.

PRACTICE GRATITUDE

In our everyday lives, comparison almost always leads to discontentment—this feeling that what we have, or what we’ve accomplished, or where we are at right now isn’t good enough.  And while not all discontentment is bad—sometimes we need that gentle nudge to encourage us to face our fears or make a change—the angst that comes from feeling that what we have is lacking in comparison to someone else is not generally a good thing.

But gratitude turns that all around.

Instead of focusing on what we don’t have, we need to focus on what we do have.  Instead of beating ourselves up for what we haven’t yet accomplished, we need to celebrate the little milestones along the way.  Instead of only looking forward to what still on the horizon, we also need to look back and acknowledge how far we’ve come.

Creating a life you LOVE starts with appreciating the life you have.

How to escape the comparison trap and start embracing your own journey.

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5 Comments

  1. Deanna VanHorn
    September 17 at 10:39AM

    Thank you!
    I needed to read this today!

  2. Kirsten
    September 17 at 12:21PM

    I enjoyed the message today! What a great way to start the week! I’m struggling with recognizing my own dreams, but now feel like maybe looking at what success means may help!

  3. September 22 at 08:25AM

    This is the really very great message and very helpful for me and more be confident today. Thanks to the heart.

  4. Barbara
    September 22 at 01:45PM

    Thanks I needed that today especially! I do this all the time only I compare my younger self to myself today. Illness and age are not being cooperative with my high expectations, I know I should not think like that but it sounded better coming from a stranger. Thank you

  5. September 24 at 08:54PM

    Ruth!! I am so happy that I came across this post today. I am a brand new blogger (I literally just launched it today!!) and one of my very first posts was about this very topic! It was an awesome feeling reading your post about the same topic because you are a huge inspiration to me as a blogger (and a person)!

    I’m not going to be tacky and try to promote my blog in your comments, but it would be an honor for you to read my post. I know you’re super busy, but if you’re interested, please let me know!!
    XOXO

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