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What happens when you stop the excuses, consciously take control of your own life, & don’t let anything stand in your way? Take control of your own destiny, remove the things keeping you stuck, and start creating a life you love! #livingwellspendingless #doitscared #doitscaredpodcast #motivation #inspiration

The Do It Scared™ Podcast with Ruth Soukup provides weekly motivation, inspiration, and practical instruction for anyone tired of settling for “good enough.” Each week we tackle topics like goal-setting, overcoming excuses, finding the time, energy & know-how for accomplishing our dreams, and overcoming the obstacles that stand in our way. Don’t miss an episode; subscribe here.

Have you ever asked yourself what might happen if you refused to make excuses?

What would it mean to consciously take control of your own life and refuse to let anything stand in your way?

Would that lead to success? Or happiness? Maybe even both?

Here’s the deal–when we understand that we have the ability to take control of our own destiny, we can actually remove the things keeping us stuck and start creating a life we love.

My friend Susie from Episode 2, of the Do It Scared™ podcast grew up in poverty on the UK’s version of welfare, with a mom who suffered from mental illness, and an alcoholic dad who would disappear regularly. SO much was stacked against her…

But as a teenager, Suzie decided that if she wanted success, she needed to live her life with no excuses and not let her circumstances define her.

So she didn’t.

Now as a bestselling author, she inspires thousands of people to live their best lives, as she lives hers.

And then there’s my friend Edie, who joined me in  Episode 10 of the Do It Scared™ Podcast. Edie had a similarly traumatic childhood…An alcoholic dad. Extreme poverty. Frequent hunger. No stability.

It would be easy for her to use any number of excuses. But, like Susie, Edie decided early on that she was not going to take NO for an answer.

She graduated with honors and went on to medical school and became a family physician and then eventually started her own wildly successful business.

And here’s the thing: Both Susie and Edie could have easily let their disadvantages define their lives. After all, how could one possibly be expected to overcome such extreme poverty and dysfunction?

But both Susie and Edie refused to see themselves as victims. Their determination and drive to rise above their circumstances started with their conscious decision to stop making excuses.

Because truly, a no-excuses mindset is the only way.

So how do we actually adopt this kind-of no-excuses mentality?

In Episode 17 of the Do It Scared™ Podcast, you will learn 3 specific steps you can take right now that will help you make this mindset a reality. I promise once you make it a habit, you will never let excuses hold you back again!

Below is a quick recap of the three steps I take to adopt a zero excuses approach in my own life:

The only thing you can control is you. Take control of your life!


There is so much in life that is outside of our control. And, at some point, the deck will be stacked against you, and something won’t be fair. Someone will treat you badly. You might get sick or injured. You’ll have a financial setback. You’ll be betrayed. The ONLY sure thing about life is that it is completely and utterly unpredictable. And that’s why it is so critically important to understand, in the core of your being, that the only thing you will ever be able to control is you.

But make no mistake–taking full responsibility for your own life can feel pretty scary. It means that there is nothing left to hide behind and that you are standing out there in the open, vulnerable, exposed, and raw. And that takes real courage.


No one wants to feel like they are going it alone, wading into uncharted territory all by themselves. It’s comforting to be able to follow in someone else’s footsteps and reassuring to know that whatever you are trying to do is actually possible because someone else has done it. But there’s a catch. Looking for a role model is not the same thing as waiting to be rescued.

When you actively seek out a role model for guidance, you are assuming responsibility and taking ownership of your journey. You are being proactive, not reactive, and you understand that the job of your role model is not to do the work for you, but to show you that it can be done, and to offer guidance along the way. Luckily, there are role models and teachers and coaches and mentors everywhere you look—you just have to start looking.

Live your life with no excuses - because even a good excuse is still an excuse


If you are looking for an excuse, you will always be able to find one. But even a good excuse is still just an excuse. The only way to escape the disease of excusitis is to refuse to make it an option, under any circumstances.

Success starts with refusing to make excuses, no matter what. Stop looking for justifications and instead focus on the one thing that you can control—yourself.



  1. August 6 at 07:30AM

    Thank you so much Ruth. It is now 6:21 where am and i just finished reading your entire post. It was so refreshing to start my day with. I have so much things to do in order to achieve my goals and I constantly look for information like this to remind me that I can and will achieve my goals in spite of a difficult childhood.

    Have yourself a wonderful day!

  2. August 6 at 09:28AM

    Good morning, since this is the time that I am reading this. This caught my eye the title so I checked it out for my wake up reading. Thanks for the reminders. I truly hope that I can get back to your pod cast and get to check out your check list. Enjoy the day I am going to try.

  3. August 6 at 12:56PM

    “LOOK FOR A ROLE MODEL, NOT A RESCUER” This is gold. I’ve struggled with lots of things, but it wasn’t until I found role models to look up to that I started to overcome them. Sometimes I forget to check in on them when I start to backtrack. Thank you for the minder!

  4. Resa
    August 6 at 01:54PM

    Your advice here is wise, but it can also be complicated for those of us with early childhood wounds that leave us longing for something we didn’t get back when we needed it. As someone who experienced a lot of abuse and betrayal at a young age, there’s a young part of my self that still longs to be rescued. I’ve learned, however, that when I feel like that, it’s time to retreat a little from the world and tend to some serious self-care. Only when I feel safe and centered can I venture back out and look for a role model that I won’t subtly try to transform into a rescuer.

  5. Jennifer Joseph
    August 6 at 05:36PM

    Hello Ruth,
    I have to tell you the timing of this post is impeccable. For most of my life even since childhood, I have been mistreated and suffered from the effects of trauma. To put it mildly, my life has been an excruciatingly painful series of pain and disappointment and betrayal. My narcissistic husband left almost 2 years ago and I have gone back and forth between anger, relief, self-pity, depression, anxiety, suicide ideations, hope, despair, disgust and finally to where I am now which is that I am fed the hell up with feeling like I have had no control over my life ever. In essence, I am sick and tired of being sick and tired.
    I can’t thank you enough for lighting my internal flame again. I recently became certified as a life coach and I want to help other women find their way out of the pit of despair from past emotional wounds. I forgot the most important thing and that is none of us have to be experts. We just have to ask ourselves how we can be of service to others. I love your podcasts and listen to them on my morning walks. Thank you for sharing your heart and soul with the world.

  6. August 22 at 10:49PM

    Great article Ruth…this is excellent advice for anyone. It’s good advice for people who grew up in difficult circumstances as well as people who had an easy upbringing.

    Very motivating!

  7. September 10 at 06:26AM

    This post gave me all the feels, Ruth. I must say, I have never been so inspired and motivated. I found you last week and have been hooked on your ebook and courses ever since. Although I considered myself a no excuse kind of girl, I realized I was making more than I realized. Thank you for getting my butt back in gear. The best is yet to come!

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